How I Work With Couples
Relationships don’t fall apart overnight — and they don’t usually heal through quick fixes. My work with couples is grounded in a clear, compassionate, neuroscience-informed method that helps partners understand what’s really happening beneath conflict, distance, or disconnection.
In therapy sessions, we don’t just analyse arguments (although this is, of course, a necessary part of couples therapy). We look at your whole relational ecosystem — how you communicate, soothe, repair, reconnect, and grow as a couple. And equally important, we build on the strengths, skills, and moments of connection you already have.
A Safe and Structured Space
Couples often arrive feeling overwhelmed, uncertain, or stuck in repeating cycles. I work to create a calm, emotionally safe space where both partners can slow down, breathe, and start to be heard without interruption or judgement.
From the very first session, you’ll learn practical tools to regulate difficult moments, reduce escalation, and understand each other’s emotional needs more clearly.
Understanding the Patterns Beneath the Problem
Most conflict isn’t about the surface issue which appears to be its subject; rather, it is about what the moment represents:
“Do I matter to you?”
“Do you really see me?”
“Is this relationship safe for me?”
“Do you put into the relationship as much I do?”
“I need space to be me.”
“I want to feel closer to you.”
My way of working includes tools for understanding emotional triggers, escalation patterns, repairing after conflict, and reconnecting — we identify the deeper dynamics shaping your arguments and your connection.
But we also look for what is healthy: the loyalty, humour, affection, shared history, and moments of tenderness that still exist between you. These become pillars of your healing process.
Tools for Real Change
Couples learn how to:
Communicate with clarity and intention
Recognise early signs of emotional overwhelm or conflict “flare-ups”
Repair after conflict in ways that actually heal
Build daily rituals that strengthen the relationship
Reconnect emotionally and physically
Create shared practices that keep the relationship healthy long-term
Lean into what already works — your strengths, values, and existing bonds
These tools become part of your everyday life — not just something you use in the therapy room.
A Collaborative, Non-Blaming Approach
My work is never about deciding who’s right in your conflict. It’s about understanding what’s happening between you. I help each partner speak from clarity rather than defensiveness, and listen from curiosity rather than fear and anger.
You’ll learn how to move from reacting to responding — from emotional survival to connection — while also recognising and celebrating the resilience and strengths your relationship already holds.
Healing, Growth, and Relationship Renewal
Whether you’re navigating ongoing conflict, emotional distance, betrayal, life transitions, or simply feeling disconnected, our work goes beyond crisis management. We focus on strengthening the foundations, improving communication, restoring emotional and physical closeness, and amplifying the strong, healthy parts of your relationship.
The goal isn’t perfection.
The goal is a relationship that feels grounded, safe, connected, and alive — a place where you can grow together, not just get by.
Ultimately the aim is a clear, structured, deeply humane path forward.